Things I don’t want to say

What don’t you want people to find out about you? Yet most would ridicule one over the same?

These are things people face in their daily lives, it should be a norm, since it isn’t shared it’s not seen as a norm but rather how would he/she/they see me? Meanwhile, the person you are worried about is experiencing the same, have experienced but you will never know.

The society has structured a way in which life is supposed to be perfectly lived, if you miss a step you are viewed as a failure and the most critics are from within, you can’t run or hide from yourself.

When Do I Quit?

When do you say I have had enough or I want to take a break from a career, friendship, marriage- God forbid (it’s for better or worse) right?, a hobby, a lifestyle? Are options available for these life transitions? It is a part of life but it’s not normal.

Would you want to be used as an example or let it pass, you are strong, don’t bring shame to your family.

We have all being caught up at least once in a situation that we said to ourselves, how will the world view us?

We have social media where people’s lives are flamboyant, luxurious, no one’s failure is published at least not very often, only the glory and the good. We are happy on Instagram, we landed a dream job on Twitter, happy holidays with family on Facebook and I’m dying inside.

I have experienced hunger to get to this one happy day, sleepless nights, with no mercy. Glory is here but I am equally bruised and traumatized amongst other things but I will put up a face, because image is more important.

The system is flawed but it is the system that dictates your lifestyle, the structure is deeper than speaking up, therapy, support from friends/ family.

We are yearning to be successful, accomplish our goals, business growing, be healthy, build something of yourself and while you on the journey life is happening, no matter what you think it’s never yes or no, black or white, right or wrong but we are in the system that will judge you with two options.

It should easy to say I’m tired, No, l am in pain, I want to share my pain freely without feeling judged, my life experience might not be the structure that the society is set for but it’s my experience, it is normal and exists. It shouldn’t be shameful, it’s a gradual change, and parts of my story that is of human nature.

Be okay with feeling sad, not having a good day, failing at something you worked so hard for, disappointed, heartbroken, divorced, cheated on, not pretty enough, not rich enough and a little outdated.